What Do You Do If Your Mom Does Not Listen To You?

We all have that problem.

Our moms just don't want to listen to us.

We tell them what our views are and they get into a fit. They start yelling at us and do not want to listen anymore.

Why are they like that? Can't they be less emotional? Dads are sometimes worse. They could smack us on the head if we try to express our views further.

What should you do under those circumstances?

As a professor I am going to teach you how to handle those situations.

First, NEVER shout back!.

Or you are going to get smacked and you don't want that. Forget about your karaté you have learnt. It won't work. Beside you should never lift your hand against your parents. Better get smacked.

Second, Keep quiet!

Your best defense is invisible bullets. Even if you know you are right and they are totally wrong and what they are saying are rubbish, do not allow one single word to come out. I repeat, NOT ONE SINGLE WORD!

Because if you do, you will get fired with a machine gun. When they ask you for an answer, they are really not asking for it. Trust me on that. Don't fell into the trap. Whatever you say, they will hammer you. They are like volcanoes ready to burst at the slightest provocation.

The best strategy is to KEEP QUIET until they finish all the talking. You know when they finish when they tell you to go to your room.

Then go, do not reactivate the volcano. Let them cool down at least with one night sleep.

Third, find a quiet private time with your mom. Only do that when her mood is good.

Tell her you understand how she feels and how she looks at it. Enumerate each of her concern. And maybe she is right. Mom and dad do care for us and want to protect us. Talk to her gently. Propose her something which would alleviate her concern.

Let say, you want to go to a party. Tell her that you will call her every hour and you would be back home at a certain time and of course you will not have sex. Tell her that if you were in her place you would react the same way because you are afraid something bad could happen. If she sees you are on the same mind as her, she would try to be understanding to you too.

Remember parents are like little children. You have to show them love and concern. Often time you might have to take the first step. And when they feel reassured and loved, they will grant you a lot of favors.

Last, but not least, Don't disappoint them. You have to earn their trust once they give it to you.

Else there will be nothing you can do next time if they don't listen to you.

Listen to professor Kampi.